Dollar Dance

Private Dancer by Tina Turner, may as well do it for what it is

Jennifer - I`m not sure why you would try to be sarcastic with your comment. Many couples have dollar dances, money trees or wishing wells. That is up to the couple to decide. IF that is not something that you want to do then you don`t have to - it`s your choice. However, this board is here for our benefit to help others plan their joyous occasion and if you can`t offer sound reasonable advice, please keep you sarcasm to yourself.

Carmen, the money dance is tradition in my culture, and in our culture any slow song will do

I agree with MJ. It is a part of my culture to do what we call an apron dance. I have seen it done with fast-pasted music such as polkas, which seen to keep everybody moving. It is not about the couple trying to sqeeze money out of their guests, but a way for them to be a part of the reception and also wish the couple well with a little extra. There are many other cultures in which this is done sometime during the reception. Some even throw money on the dance floor while everyone is dancing. As I said before, it is not about getting more money, it is about tradition. My parents did it at their wedding and that was almost 40 years ago. If it is not part of your culture, then don`t do it. Please don`t make the people who have it as part of their culture feel sleezy about doing it.

I had a money dance at our wedding 3 years ago. We just asked the band to play a couple of good songs that me and my new husband could dance with other people to. They were nice slow songs. Not too slow actually they were country, two steppin songs. What kind of Culture do you belong to, Robin, if you dont mind me asking? I never knew that it was part of a culture or a tradition. I thought it was to help the couple on their honeymoon. OOPS!!!

A dollar dance sounds like something that a stripper does. Is that what it is?

Is this for your wedding or is it for....something else?

I had a dollar dance at my wedding and we just used several slow songs that we liked. I always like the dollar dance at a wedding. Some people get offended by it because of some silly reasons, but the fact is that people who don`t want to participate in the dollar dance, don`t have to participate. I think everyone at my wedding participated and one person even slipped in a $100 bill.

LAYLA,
I LOVE IT WHEN YOU ARE RUDE AND SARCASTIC...KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK.... I REMEMBER WHEN YOU USED TO DANCE AND YOU DIDN`T KNW WHERE TO PUT THE PENNIES...

I have asked my daughter to avoid just two things when she gets married. 1st, the tacky t-shirt with lifesavers attached to wear to the bachelorette party and 2nd, the money dance. Both of these seem to me to turn the bride into a prostitute.

Carman, do NOT listen to what some of these closed minded, judgemental people have to say. I guess no one ever taught them that if you don`t have something nice to say don`t say anything at all. They are just people with too much free time on their hands so they try putting other people down. Anyway, I am also planing on doing a dollar dance at my wedding and I have not thought about any specific songs but definately something slower but not too slow. Good luck and congradulations.

Closed minded, narrow minded? Maybe. But please respect other people`s opinion as well your own. Despite our difference in opinion, please accept my offer of c-o-n-g-r-a-t-u-l-a-t-i-o-n-s. I am sure C-a-r-m-e-n appreciates your support. Please enjoy your wedding and consider Private Dancer by Tina Turner for a song for your dollar dance.

THE PIXIES- "Where Is My Mind" would be fun- not too slow or fast...just good
Don`t mind Layla. She just couldnt get Eric Clapton down on his knees

You could always sell your shoe instead of a dollar dance.

Sell your shoe? You must be a writer for Saturday night live, because like that show, you make no sense.

I think a dollar dance is a great way for guests to wish the bride and groom well. At busy receptions it`s a great chance to talk your friend or relative.

Any easy to dance to song is great.

Its an old Polish tradition, don`t knock it til you try it, the dollar dance is good, but for those that don`t want to dance, you can bid on the bride`s shoe like an auction. I know for a fact it raises alot of money

Interesting, you learn something new everyday.

Thanks for explaining your post. With all the flamers on this site, I get a little punchy.

Sounds like fun, how does the bride dance after her shoe is sold?

Puff The Magic Dragon Lives By The Sea

Do the bride and groom cry if they don`t get all the money they want?

Carmen- in my culture this is a fun experience, we usually pick fun and fast music.(like cumbias) you should pick somone to be in charge of pining the dollars on the bride and groom or they can put them in a basket. If theres a line for people to dance you should limit the dancing to a minute or so. Good luck !!!!

Every culture is indeed different with this concept of money collecting! I suggest to do what you and your groom agree is best. My man is Italian, he insisted that in his culture we were supposed to go table to table collecting envelopes of cash in a satin bag! Well I was horrified! I thought: "what is this, collection time?" Being that I am half armenian I teased him and told him that in my culture I should bellydance from table to table for money to be showered over my head in a beaded bra! That made him see how different cultures may not see eye to eye. We had to compromise and we agreed on setting up a little box on the gift table that says "Wedding Gifts" and our guests can drop cards or money into it. I am not having a dollar dance but if I were I`d dance all sorts of fun medley type of songs. The reason I don`t want it are very different: one I don`t want anyone putting money on my person/dress. Secondly as a guest at weddings I found this to be a little boring...so I am skipping it....whatever you choose just make sure it goes with both the groom`s and your wishes instead of the people on this message board!

Thank you to EVERYONE who responded to my post. I was married on May 31st and we ended up not doing the dollar dance just for the fact that by the end of the day we were just too tired and didn`t feel like dancing. Not to mention it gave us more time to spend with the guests. Thanks again!!!!